I remember when I wrote a post on Bellanaija in 2019, there is always going to be pressure anyway, so just live your best. It got so much views and comments as I poured out my heart genuinely in that post. It just showed that everyone is prone to feeling pressured in one form or the other. But you know again, it is how well you handle any form of pressure that will matter in the end.
Some of the time, what people do is to self inflict unnecessary pressure on themselves. Now this is what I mean;
They are actively always on social media, poking into what others are doing. They keep seeing all the massive strides people are taking , and they immediately begin to feel pressured. These people are always on the look out for the next big thing others are doing, by keeping tabs on them like bees nesting around a honey comb.
Well, I am not saying that you shouldn’t see and appreciate others achievement, but most often than not, those who only poke into others affair like this are les busy with their own dreams. The very funny irony is that they see all the things they want to do, ideas they have once had, and they say to themselves, I should be the one doing so and so.
So you get why some people feel unnecessarily pressured sometimes?
What I see very obvious is my generation is that there are many talkers, many with burning desires who love to speak about their vision, but then, it all ends in Talks. So just a reality check, when you see people on this table, they are idle and do not engage themselves productively.
I know it will be wrong to deny that there are no pressures anywhere
But there is also another perspective to feeling pressured. This is when people are sitting idle and doing nothing with the vision they have. There could be many possible reasons for this such as :
- Lack of Self Belief
- Lack of Motivation
- Lack of Direction
What catches my attention most is a lack of motivation. I know it is very good to be self motivated to achieve your goals, but also getting lots of encouragement from others as you journey through life will really boost your energy to achieving your goals. We all need encouragement to go through life. It is part of our make up as humans.
We need people, we need each other as we go through life. But we dont need people who make us feel pressured or who don’t believe in us. We need those who will see our blind spot and point our attention to them because they genuinely want to see us become better.
Look out for these people who encourage you and also encourage another with every given opportunity you get. We owe each other this responsibility, this is the least we can do to help each other!