Stop Being Too Self- Conscious

Stop being too Self- Conscious. I know the title of this post isn’t what you most likely hear as the norm. But trust me, I will delve deeper into explaining what I mean.

You sure must have heard the meaning of  Self-Awareness, meaning recognising your strength, weaknesses, and opportunities.  According to the renowned coach, and leadership expert, John C Maxwell, he defines Self-Awareness as knowing yourself so that you can grow yourself.

Self-consciousness, on the other hand, is defined as a heightened sense of self-awareness, often a state of preoccupation with oneself which could be associated with shyness or paranoia (Wikipedia)

Is Being Self-Conscious Such a Bad Thing?

I don’t think it is. But being too Self- Conscious may adversely be limiting you in some way or the other that you wouldn’t know. It could make you always want to overthink on issues before you obviously take any actions on them. This obviously doesn’t mean that when you want to take actions, you shouldn’t sit and count the cost, just as the Holy Bible says, but some really stop at this level of analysing if they are the best fit for achieving anything.

Let Me Tell a Short Story

I recently listened to a prominent woman’s interview on TV. As I watched her, I could see that she had a lot of self-confidence. In fact, she wasn’t such an expert at what she was doing, but one thing was clear, she acted like she had all the right answers to the questions she was asked.

After watching the interview, I thought within myself, what could have given her such confidence to speak boldly, even when she didn’t have all her facts in place?  I realised that what she basically was doing was not caring and magnifying her weaknesses at being a novice at what she was asked. And hence she not only got our attention to listen, but she also passed a stronger message on the importance of Self- Confidence.

And from her interview,  I learned that, in life, we need to be able to ditch our fear, stop magnifying our weakness, and hence do what will truly count in the long run, which is what we will be remembered for.

In Conclusion,

Sometimes, you need to live your life with the I DONT CARE  attitude. Stop telling yourself things that are not true. Even if everyone out there is waiting for you to fail, that shouldn’t be your focus. What you need to do is to push yourself beyond boundaries at every time, challenge yourself, and live the best life that you can.

PS: I did this short video some days ago, and it will surely inspire you. Please watch below…





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